If you’re like most working moms, then all you’re doing each day is working hard so you can groom your child or children to succeed in life. It is the dream of every truly caring mother to see their children succeed.
But this goes beyond a simple personal ambition of a mother for her children. It is also a social responsibility.
Whether you’re a biological parent, adoptive or a foster parent of that child, you owe this sacred responsibility to yourself, the child and to society.
It is your duty to play your part well in socializing them so that they may grow up to become fully-functioning members of society.
So how do you go about grooming your child to succeed? How do you fulfill this important obligation?
I have here a list of 8 crucial approaches that I believe can help every working mom who wants to see her children grow up into successful adults.
1. Keep an interest in their development and progress.
This includes matters relating to the child’s physical development, school work and personal goals. The more interest you show in these things as a parent, the more energized the child becomes to keep trying harder and reaching for more.
2. Give them adequate supervision and direction.
Find time in your busy schedule as a working parent to do this.
True, some children may consider this as undue interference in their personal affairs. But that is to be expected. Ignore them and do what you know is right for them.
Make the effort to let them appreciate the fact that your supervision is in their own interest.
Also, you need to be circumspect about the extent to which you supervise and guide them. This is necessary to avoid a feeling of resentment or outright resistance from the child.
3. Understand and appreciate their weaknesses.
It is not a good approach when a parent is overly critical of the perceived weaknesses of a child.
Parents who pour invective on their children or continually embarrass them in public as a way of making them deal with their weaknesses are, at best, only flogging a dead horse.
It is better to offer a supportive hand and give encouragement. so the child can build on their natural strengths and develop self – confidence in spite of a particular weakness.
4. Plant seeds of love; don’t instill fear.
Any child who feels loved by the parent is more likely to grow stronger emotionally than one who lives under constant fear and abuse.
Create an environment of love in the home if you can. You will see your child flourish in confidence and with a positive self-image.
5. Be an example of self-discipline and integrity.
It is not enough to show the child the way to the chapel, the synagogue or the mosque or to wherever you worship.
Someone once said that going to church regularly alone does not make you a worthy believer just as frequently visiting the garage does not automatically make you a mechanic.
Endeavour to be a living example of the values of your faith and society as a whole. Instill in the child such universal virtues as honesty, hard work, tolerance, forgiveness and empathy.
6. Teach the child the basics of financial literacy and wealth creation.
Since you cannot give what you do not have, it is imperative on your part to first educate yourself in matters relating to money management.
You will then be in the right position to impart to your child the basic principles of personal finance.
Train your child to shun financial profligacy. Groom your child to embrace frugal living and prudent financial management. Plant in the child the seeds that would make them grow up to become good investors and entrepreneurs in their adult years.
7. Do not over-protect.
It is common these days to see parents who are overly protective of their children. Many wrongly think this is what they must do for their children to succeed.
Yes, it is true that our world is getting more and more dangerous for our children. But, all the same, I believe the best way to prepare a child to face a hostile world is to allow them to experiment, test and build their combat readiness, so to speak.
8. Avoid pampering the child.
Do not be deluded into thinking that showering a child with expensive gifts or allowing them to have their way and do as they please are the surest signs of parental love and affection.
No, they are not.
Such an attitude on the part of many parents only ends up producing spoilt children who grow up into social misfits. So, my advice is this: If you want your child to succeed, show them love but draw a red line for the sake of discipline and their future welfare.
Wrapping it all up
It is never an easy job to be a parent. It is, however, a source of great joy for all involved – child, parent and society – when, because a parent was able to perform their duty properly, a child grew up to become an accomplished and respected individual.
I’ve left out something equally important, right?
Please, feel free to say so in a comment below.