Children are the joy of every mother. And this is the reason why it is not surprising for some mothers to decide to go for another child once in a while.
It is, however, not that easy taking the final decision to go for another child.
In fact, this is a personal choice and only you know if that is what will bring you more joy and fulfillment.
A woman’s body, all things being equal, is capable of procreating multiple times and for a long period of time.
People are known to get pregnant while still breastfeeding their new babies. So the capability is there under normal circumstances.
Facing reality …
But there is reality to face, as well, right?
Thus, quite often, it becomes a painful mental struggle for a woman to decide when to say enough is enough.
In fact, it is not an easy thing for a fertile woman to emphatically say the below words.
I simply do not need another child coming into my world.
I have a couple of points gathered from my personal experience that I want you to take into consideration. That is, if ever you come up face to face with the choice of bringing or not bringing another kiddo into your life as a working mom.
What were your original plans?
I mean … at the time you started it all did you have any family planning strategy? I am deeply interested in this one. Because I know it wouldn’t be much of a headache deciding on another child if you already had a strategy.
In this case, your family planning strategy becomes something akin to a business plan. All you need to do is to fall on this road map for your reproductive life.
Take your decision based on it and get on with the other aspects of your life.
What do you want to achieve?
What are your goals for your family? Now if you and your partner have both agreed that you need to have two bloggers and five (no laughing matter) politicians in the house at your old age, then a SEVENTH child to come after the existing six, is the best way to go. Simple. No?
What are your priorities?
The things you value most in life can influence your decision to have another child. This is regardless of how many you may have had already.
Let’s take an example here.
A certain working mom (name withheld for security reasons) chose to be content with a single child. What matters most to her was to make a certain girl-child rise to the top of the corporate ladder.
In fact, she wanted that single child to get to the point she herself dreamt of but would never have been able to reach due to reasons space and time would not allow us to discuss in this post.
So that was what occupied her mind day and night even before she had a child who luckily turned out to be a girl. And, after that, she fought off the temptation to get another child even when everyone around her pestered her for more.
Did she finally succumb to the pressure? No.
The reason is simply this. She was always acutely aware of her own priorities, so she never let others force her to please them.
Are you healthy enough?
A woman’s health is one important commodity not for sale at Agbogbloshie market.
Agbo… what? Well … let’s keep moving.
And when it comes to pregnancy and child-bearing, you cannot toy with your health.
Clearly, asking yourself whether you’re healthy enough to go through another reproduction process is not a bad idea. It becomes even more crucial if you’ve had a history of serious complications during your previous pregnancies.
Sometimes, seeking the opinion of a qualified physician will enable you to do the right thing. Do not hesitate to do so.
Consider the financial implications.
Now, here comes the mother of all considerations, I dare say.
An additional child automatically means one more mouth to feed. It is not surprising, therefore, that most family planning advisors tend to make this argument their most compelling point.
They often use it to advise couples to restrict the number of children they want to have within manageable limits.
Sure, it shouldn’t be all about money. But you and I cannot run away from a certain fact. Today, we live in a world of unbearable costs of education, housing and the like.
It is wise to stop at a certain point. It is good to be content with the children we’ve so far been blessed with.
On the other hand, however, you may think another child will bring some welcome financial benefits. This depends on where you live in the world, anyway.
In that case, there should be nothing stopping you from doing what you consider to be the best for you.
Last word …
For any working mom it is never going to be easy deciding whether another child is needed in the family.
Nevertheless, remember that leaving everything to chance may impact negatively on your health, your finances or your life goals. This is why you need to really get proactive about making the right choice for you.
What are your thoughts on what you’ve been reading? I’ll be glad to hear from you.